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Asked: 2022-03-23T00:51:03+05:30 In:

Why is it tough having sex for the first time?

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There are probably lots of things going through your mind if you are thinking about having sex for the first time. You may be wondering if your body will change or whether it will hurt. Read on to find answers to some of the questions you may have about first-time sex.

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  1. मैंने कुछ भी कठिन नहीं देखा या महसूस नहीं किया। मेरे लिए यह पूर्ण आनंद और यादों के लिए एक था। मैं वास्तव में इसे सेक्स नहीं कहूंगा, हमने मई के मध्य में एक ट्रीहाउस में शुक्रवार दोपहर को लगभग 3 घंटे तक प्यार किया। कोई घबराहट नहीं,

    शुद्ध आनंद।

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  2. Because there are NO DO-OVERS. You can’t rewind and try to be less nervous, or better groomed, or choose a different person to share it with. It’s so mysterious until you actually have sex. Then, ain’t nothing to it but to do it. It’s the untimate test of insecurity.

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  3. You’ve never had sex before, and you’re nervous. You’re not sure what to expect, and instead of enjoying yourself, you’re anxious, and worried that it will hurt. Or, you have had sex before, but you’re feeling stressed about your special wedding night. All the sex scenes in movies you’ve seen tell you that sex should be passionate, hot, and result in mind-blowing orgasms. Plus, you should have washboard abs or luscious locks that graze your bountiful figure as you hold Karma Sutra positions 3 through 47–while looking irresistibly sexy, of course. You’re trying so hard to achieve Hollywood’s image of sex that instead of making love to your partner, you’re tensing up about doing things wrong, and it hurts when he attempts to penetrate.

    The vagina is a flexible, muscular canal that can stretch to accommodate a baby, but it can also contract when you’re tense and anxious, which could cause difficulty penetrating during sex. A lack of relaxation and arousal can also lead to pain due to insufficient lubrication. Worrying about whether you’re doing it right can also lead to tension, making it even harder to penetrate during sex.

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  4. Dosto main koi jada samye barbad karne ke vishvash nahi rakhta. Bas ye bata deta hoon ki mera naam Manish aur umar 25 saal, lund ka size 8″ aur Meri naukrani kaam naam Kamla devi hai, par sabhi use Kammo bulate hai.

    Baat yehi koi 6 mahine purani hai, jab wo mere ghar par nayi nayi kaam karne aayi thi. Wo ek shadi shuda bhabhi ki tarah hai, sab kuchh ek dam fit, lagti nahi ki naukrani hai aur ye meri naukrani ki chudai ki story hai.

    Jese hi usne mere ghar kaam karna shrur kiya, to maine kuchh din baad se hi uspar line marna shuru kar diya tha,. Wo bhi meri baat achhe se samjh gayi thi ki main usse kya maang raha hoon.

    Par kyoki meri mummy hamesha ghar par hoti, to mujhe uske sath akele me time bitane ka moka nahi mil raha tha. Par aisa hamesha nahi ho sakta aur karib 2 mahine baad hi mummy ko mausi ke ghar jana pada aur mere liye rasta saaf ho gya.

    Agle din jese hi kammo aayi, to maine use apne kamre me bulaya aur use bataya ki aaj mummy ghar par nahi hai. Meri baat sun kar uske chehre par ek alag hi bhav aa gya.

    Main utha aur sidha use pakad kar kiss karne laga aur uske normal size ke chuchon ko dabane laga. Pehle pehle usne thodi aana kaani kari, jese ki har aurat ek baar drama karti hai.

    Par fir wo bhi samjh gayi ki main aaj uski lene ke mud me hoon, kyoki mujhe itne dino ke baad ye moka badi mushkil se mila hai. To usne bhi mera sath dena hi sahi samjha.

    Isse pehle ki main shuru karta usne mere sath baat karna hi jaruri samjha aur wo boli – babu ji aap apni ichha to aaj puri kar rahe ho par meri ichha ka kya?

    Uski baat sunte hi main samjh gya ki wo kya chahti hai aur main muskurate hue bola – Fikar mat karo tumhe bhi iski aisi kimat jarur milegi jisse tumhari ichha bhi puri ho jayegi.

    Meri baat sun kar wo bhi muskura uthi aur is baar apne aap uth kar mere pass aaye aur mere hontho ko chusne lagi. Wo vese to ek naukrani thi, par ek dam saaf suthri aurat thi. Koi bhi use dekhe to use naukrani nahi keh sakta tha.

    Usne us din ek salwar suit pehna hua tha aur main uski kurti ke upar se kiss karte hue apne ek hath se to uske boobs daba raha tha aur dusra hath uske pichhe leja kar uski naram mulayam badi si gand masal raha tha.

    Tabhi maine use nichhe ghune ke bal bethne ka ishara kiya jise usne bade hi aadar ke sath mana. Wo niche beth gayi aur apne gle hi par une meri pant se mera loda bahar nikal diya tha.

    Mere lund ka size dekh kar uska muh khula ka khula reh gya, par agle hi par usne mujhe dekhte hue ek naughty si simle pass kari. Uske chehre par is bhav ko dekh kar main sajh gya tha wo jaan chuki hai aaj uski chudai nahi thukai hone wali hai.

    Kaffi dino se tadap rahe mere lund ne jab uske muh ki garmi mehsus kari to main to maje se tript sa ho gya. Wo mera lund kisi porn star ki tarah chusne lagi, par hala ki mera lund uske muh me aadha hi ja raha tha.

    5 min tak wo mera lund chusti rahi aur is doran une mere tatte bhi achhe se chaate aur mere lode ko apne thuk se apni chut me jane ke liye puri tarah se chikna kar diya.

    Tabhi maine use kapne utarne ko kaha aur mere kehte hi ek min ke andar andar wo apne kapdon se nijat ho gayi. Uska figure dekh kar main thoda heran tha aur khush bhi ki mujhe aaj aisa maal chone ko mila hai.

    To maine aage badh kar apni teen ungaliya uske muh me dali jise usne apne thuk se gila kar diya aur wo mere bed ke ek kinare par apni tange khola kar let gayi.

    Maine bhi apni ungaliyon par thoda sa apna thuk thuka aur uski chut pas ragad kar uske andar jane ke liye use chukna kiya. Uski chut par thode baal the par itne bhi nahi.

    Iske baad maine sabar ke baandh ko todte hue apne lode ko uski chut ke muhane par rakha diya. Wo meri aankho me dekh rahi thi aur main uski aur dekhte hi dekhte maine apne lode ko uski chut me ghusana shuru kar diya.

    Mera lund uski chut ki deewaron ki felata hua uske andar ghusne laga. Jese jese mera lund uski chut me ghus raha tha, vese vese uske chehre ke bhav badalte ja rahe the. Uska muh khulta ja raha tha aur aankhe band hoti ja rahi thi.

    Lund jese hi pura andar sama gya aur to maine ek dam se bahar khincha aur fir ek jor daar dhakke ke sath jad tak uski chut me utaar diya. Mere aisa karte hi wo jese tilmila si gayi aur uski muh ase apne aap ek ahhhhhhhhh nikal gayi.

    Is baar uske muh ke sath sath uski aankhe bhi fat kar bahar aane ko ho gayi. Par yehi to main chahta tha, is liye isse pehle ki wo kuchh keh ya kar paati maine dhada dhad uski chut me jor daar dhakke lagane shuru kar diye.

    Kamre me thappppp thappppp thappppp aur ahhhhhhhhh siiiiiiiiii ki siskariya aise gunjane lagi jese koi tabla baja raha hota hai. Wo bhi dekhte hi dekhte dar se se nikal kar maje ke aagosh me aa gayi.

    Aise hi 15 min tak main uski chut ka baja bajata raha. Is doran maine koi bhi pose chane nahi kara. Wo thak gayi thi kyoki wo 3-4 baad jhad chuki thi. Par fir tabhi mere lund ne bhi uski chut me lava ugal diya aur maine bhi jhatke khata hua ek dam khali sa ho gya.

    Mere lave ki garmi se wo ek baar fir se jhad gayi aur masi ke maar siskariya bhari hui ahhhhhhh ahhhhhhhhh karne lagi.

    Iske baad humne kaddi baar chudai kari aur ab bhi jab kabhi moka milta hai to main karta hoon, Sath sath main use paise bhi de deta hoon, lekin tabhi jab wo mere samne i-pill khati hai.

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  5. Teacher

    Robert. That very first sexual encounter.

    Let’s see. Why is it tough?

    • Nerves! No matter the partner, you are nervous because you are trying something new
    • Technique! You can watch all the sex scenes in movies and porn, but until you actually try it, awkwardness prevails
    • Tightness! A vagina that has never been penetrated might have a hymen intact, which for some women, can be more difficult to perforate. A vagina can also be tight if it has never been visited by a penis. Add nerves to the hymen and/or natural tightness and it might be impossible to access a vagina without coaxing. Finally, vaginas can be dry.
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    • Foreplay! Never discount the value of foreplay! It gets juices flowing which helps lubricate the vagina. It also can help with nerves; lube is also helpful if foreplay is not enough, but don’t use too much
    • Birth Control/Protection! If you are smart, you have planned to use birth control and/or a condom to prevent diseases and infections. Putting on a condom can be difficult without practice and nerves can make it harder. Inserting a diaphragm or spermicides can be inconvenient if foreplay has commenced unless you have planned ahead
    • Male Performance Anxiety! Lots of guys have performance anxiety because they are worried that they will come too fast, get a girl knocked up, or, hell no, lose their erection.
    • Body Image! Both men and women (usually women IMO) are embarrassed about their bodies and want the lights out or clothing on, or blankets for covering. You can get tangled in the latter items. Fumbling around in the dark can lead to awkward encounters with belly buttons and anuses or incorrect installation of condoms.
    • Timing! Male virgins generally don’t last very long which leaves women wondering why sex is such a big deal. The good news is that young studs have a short refractory period. If you wait 10–15 minutes (or less), guys are usually ready for round 2
    • Post-Coital Reaction! If it doesn’t go well either or both parties might be disappointed. Regret and shame might be an issue. Crying can ensue which may make one party feel horrible. A woman might bleed which can be alarming to either or both participants. Awkwardness might prevail along with nerves. One person might want to cuddle while the other might want to run

    My advice:

    1. Talk/communicate
    2. Plan for birth control and disease prevention
    3. Get consent
    4. Engage in foreplay
    5. Use lubrication (esp lubricated condoms)
    6. Check-in with each other each step of the way
    7. Laugh at foibles
    8. Relax
    9. Enjoy

    REMEMBER: practice makes perfect and is LOTS of fun

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